None of the Faggotty-Bullshit

A response to an email discussion about my photography: The persons original comments are below --

Interestesting comments.. and YET I think many of the reasons you
mentioned NOT liking some of the images, are precisely why I photographed
them. The part of the BOYCODE that inspired that series of photographs is that
ABOVE ALL ELSE men/guys/boys are not to do anything that is remotely feminine or
that could be confused with a display of homosexuality. That fact that
several of those images made you feel uncomfortable is evidence that this
socially constructed code is operating within you.
What is a boy/guy/man to
do when he finds himself attacted to another man .. even if he isn't
homosexual, perhaps the attraction is just a passing fascination. Yet, he is informed
through society that there is something devestatingly wrong with him or that at the very
least, he is less that a REAL man.
Why is it that in friendships
between women, there tends to be a certain amount of intimacy and affection that
is completely acceptable as platonic and nonsexual. Further, even explicit sexuality
between women in our Playboy/Elimidate current social setting is acceptable and
even applauded. It is HOT when women touch; but totally unacceptable when
men do. An immense double standard based soley on gender. That's odd and sexist
to me. When questioned about this, men and women typically only can reply
.. "because men aren't suppose to do that." That seems to be an
insufficient answer to me. WHO SAYS what men are and are not supposed
to do. Where is it written and Who wrote it?
Similary, the touch images
address ((with a bit of humor in my mind)) the fact that men are afraid to touch
each other casually or even incidentally.Think to a time when you
were sitting next to another guy and your hands, or knees, or ... whatever
happened to touch and you [most likely] quickly jerked your hand away AND either
apologized or ignored the incident as if it did not happen. I see it
happen all the time, and even realizing its absurdity, I still react in same the
way. SINCE WHEN was it such a horrible thing to be touching a person and
WHY ON EARTH do we apologize as though it were painful. OUCH!! We've
touched!! IT BURNS. Oh, Im so sorry. Hahaa. So I put two
guys on a couch together and made them have a little body contact, and like most
men would do, you called it "TOO HOMOSEXUAL FOR MY TASTE." Perfect, you
got it. For some reason in our day and age the slightest bit of bonding,
frienship, affection, and intimacy between men is TOO GAY. And GAY is, after all, the
absolute worst thing a man can be.

> I dont like dress2 in Boycode 1, Its
either missing something, or has too much, I cant be sure. In short I dont know
why I dont like it. I def dont like july 16 03 in boycode 1, because the concept
your trying to push is simple and practical, this picture doesnt make sense if
you view it like that, If im seeing it correctly its a man standing naked
outside in front of a house, I dont know about you but I hardly ever see that
unless its a drunk hobo on 6th street(but then again, it just might be my
subconcious bias against naked men). I dont like july 16 015 because its a
little too.....homosexual FOR ME(And I dont mean that in an offensive way just
stating thoughts). Not into j1 on boycode 2. I find the transparent human being
thing a little corny. same for the other js Touch 0 boycode 3 is a little too
homosexual for me but it all depends on who your trying to appeal to. same for
touch 1, however I do like touch 2. On sink 3 I think the positioning is a
little too akward